Quick guide: Rules - boundaries - abduction avoidance know-how
Always stay within sight of a parent or groups of people. A stranger should never try to lead you away. Also, stay away from possible abduction areas which are near pathways that lead away from public areas. Stay away from cars, vans, RVs, and trucks.
If you are older and outside, it is best to stay away from roadways. If you are near a road, observe all vehicles and be prepared to move away quickly, particularly if someone is approaching you, or when a car is driving too fast or eratically.
Practice watching your parents or guardians having conversations with other adults to learn how to tell if any adult can be trusted. You can usually tell when one is lying.
Always keep a distance from adults who are not connected, particularly when you are near stairways or hallways that could be abduction routes.
A safe stranger will not ask you to go somewhere alone with them.
A safe child supevisor will not use rules that a parent or guardian does not agree with beforehand on a first-hand, direct communication between parent and child.
A safe new acquaintence will not touch you, accept by accident. (A pat on the back seems to be okay.)
A safe new acquaintence will not try to entice you with gifts or out-of-the-ordinary praise or friendliness. Common friendliness is always expected, but it does not guarantee trustworthiness.
A safe new acquaintence will not try to order you in your own matters, in anyway, except when they have specifically been approved by your parent or guardian.
Did your parent or guardian do proper background checks on your childcare provider?
A safe person will not speak for your parent in your parent's absense about any change of plans.
At activities, parents and guardians should clearly communicate to the child and supervisor which specific adults are allowed to supervise and transport.
Also, for activities away from home, clearly communicate to the child and supervisor which specific adults are allowed to give the child a ride home.
Use the buddy system. Clearly communicate who are the buddies and what are the responsibilities each buddy. Grouping of buddies is best to be three or more. Pairing (two) of Buddies is common. But, each child should be able to trust their buddy. *Remind your buddy of your duties to each other.
Do practical background checks as well through government agencies, by talking to the parents and children at the childcare provider.
***Child safety resources
1. BSA has training for Youth Protection. (Registration required.)Go to BSAʼs YPT page For inappropriate touching; Recognize -inappropriate touching, Respond -tell them to stop, Report -to parents and BSA leaders. Both parents and child need to report.
2. "Many people will not trust others to care for their children. For example, even if Child Care Aware guarantees that their approved providers do not have sex offenders, will these providers provide a quality experience for your child?"
3. Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) - 1999 by Gavin de Becker:
Go to de Beckerʼs book on Amazon
Then, for computers, scroll down to ‘Editorial Reviews’ and ‘See all Editorial Reviews’. For mobil, scroll down to ‘Description’.