I believe Our Creator has a plan for everyone

Experiencing the 3D Social-Biological imperative: Competition for material things. The mind as a survival-coping tool, trys to understand cause-effect relationships in life's occurrences. The goal is to capitalize or take advantage of situations, such as how humans learned to start a fire from relating the concept of heat between a naturally started fire and the action of generating sparks.

Often, the most important survival-coping situations in life involve rivalry, or competition. A rival may develop a perceptual concept of you, or your actions, and may find a way to put you in a bad light, instead of discussing those actions. A rival will not have your best interests in mind, may not be interested in finding and promoting your value to your friends and to society. Surely, some people thrive on finding a way to knock someone down for agrandizement.

A rival may paint a concept of you before you have a chance to gain knowledge and wisdom in a particular area that may be contentious, painting a concept of you or your actions in a bad light. Just because a rival's conceived cause-effect relationship is plausible, doesn't mean that it is true. You need to prepare to defend yourself against perceived claims about your actions. Much examination of your motives and decisions is required. Some decisions in life can be very complex. Understand that your rival is more than likely to make mistakes than you are in identifying your motives and actions. Maybe your decision making in some cases are more complex than you can keep track of. Particularly so in stressful situations. But you will get better at it as you practice your life, remembering that it comes from Our Creator.

If you are not sure about your own goodness, and want to be good, give yourself the benefit of the doubt, and try to connect to The Creator. Sometimes, a more knowledgeable and wise person can help you find understanding. Sometimes a certain book can be enlightening. Especially one that portraits conflicting perceptions between different characters who are in your situation. You might find answers in good books like 'Grapes of Wrath'. But beware that authors too may engage in false perceptions. May Our Creator help you find truth. See ancient religious texts, like the books in the Bible. Have faith. Understanding is the ultimate goal. Controlling others is not.

Sometimes there is a deliberate willfullness to control others. Most of the time it is a perceived righteousness causes blindness. And immoral actions can pursue. I believe these actions are called sin.

Again, some people really do try to control others, and lead willing followers against a scapegoat. This can be seen in political behavior all around us: Describing someone who may be innocent in a bad light. It's bullying. Shouldn't a leader question motives rather than make accusations? Shouldn't a leader or popular person open discussions rather than slamming closed with labels? Aggression is often accepted. This is natural. Humans have their eyes in the front of their heads, a predator adaptation. This is why laws came into being, and why it is 'not' automatic to create a moral compass. May Our Creator help you this; Ask, Seek, Knock (ASK)

Verbal bullying is defamatory. Verbal aggressiveness may be a norm in some situations or groups. Also, addiction to self-agrandizement can cause a person to seek to damage another's reputation. Certainly, verbal bullying breaks at least one of the Ten Commandments.

Even an apparently nice rival can commit acts of bullying. Particularly when sheltering under political correctness or some other guise of innocence.

Where does moral imperative come from? An absolutely individual choice! But even so, there are strong influences from media and from our social connections that may push us upon the boundaries of moral behavior.

There is another important thing to consider: In the struggle to understand and get along, sometimes our minds are not able to calm down and focus. This might be common anxiety. Try relaxational therapies. If they don't work, brain chemistry may need some attention - and there are natural non-prescription alternatives. For this, see the Brain-function help section. (Note, alcohol and other mind altering substances can make things worse.)

If abuse is involved, use Google or Bing to search 'abuse' followed by the name of your city.

+ avoid media that promotes disharmony among Humans
+ do read or watch material that is positive
+ don't believe accusations are true until you have had time to contemplate both sides of the story.
+ report bullying, anonymously and repeatedly to your school, to police, and to help organizations. Do this until officials begin to watch and monitor the bully. Search 'report bullying' at your school's website. If a form does not exist, write your congresspersons.
+ report teachers and other adult monitors that do not do anything when they witness bullying or stealing. Search 'report teacher' at your school's website. If a form does not exist, write your congresspersons.
+ find a cause-for-good, or wish for good things to happen to acquaintences to establish yourself as a good person.
+ do good deeds, like pushing a shopping cart back to the store on your way in.
+ combat your mind's automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) - see this
+ don't blame someone until you have checked out all possible alternative cause-effect scenarios.
+ beware that a blamer may be blind to someone's intentions. Or, unaware of his or her own transgressions.
+ don't believe anyone that is hurting you in anyway. If someone is hurting you, you should use Google or Bing to search 'abuse' followed by the name of your city.